Embracing Failure


We try so hard to avoid failure.

We run alongside our children as they try to balance on a bike for the first time, hand on the frame, determined not to let them fall.

We turn down job opportunities and advancements, afraid that we don’t have what it takes.

We give up early on, choosing to cut our losses before the losses become too great.


What if, instead of trying to avoid failure, we accept the cost of embracing failure?


Stop seeing all failure as negative.


Failure hurts. There’s no avoiding that truth. But not all pain is negative. There are times that pain alerts us to a problem so we can fix it. Without hurt, there is no healing. When you lift weights, you lift for failure. The point is to lift until you physically cannot lift any more. You fail. And in the process you are getting stronger. If you stop before you fail, you would never stretch your limitations and grow.


Choose to welcome failure, not resent it.


The best teacher in the world is failure. Failure makes it clear to us what we don’t want to experience again. I don’t know about you, but I want to consistently be learning and growing.  I grow the most through difficult circumstances, not easy ones. When you see failure looming, lean in. Reward yourself with the opportunity to learn.


Realize that failures don’t define you, but they do shape you.


You wouldn’t be who you are without some of the failures that have already happened in your life. You are the only one who can allow them to define you. Don’t. Instead, let them shape you. You get to choose whether they define you in a positive way or a negative way.


Stop running from the opportunity to fail. Failures make successes even sweeter.



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