By definition, they are HARD.
But I am learning not to shy away from them, because it is the hard conversations that cause the most forward momentum. I am committed to doing whatever it takes to defend the unity of my family, my church, and the teams I lead – because people are too important and precious to not fight for.
What is a hard conversation?
It is a conversation that is temporarily uncomfortable in order to fight for unity. It is a conversation that brings up issues that, left unchecked, could potentially derail you or the other person.
But before we talk more about what a hard conversation is, let’s talk about what a hard conversation is not.
Hard conversations are not…
…for defending your opinion or views.
…done in anger.
…for your benefit.
…to prove a point.
Hard conversations are…
…for defending the unity of your team, family, relationship, etc.
…done in love.
…for the benefit of the other person.
…to clarify a point.
Without hard conversations in our lives, it is impossible to move forward. We will become stuck in the past or mired in the present, but we will be unable to gain momentum for the future. I don’t want to be stuck – I want to advance, so I have to be intentional about fighting for unity by being willing to have hard conversations.
Who do you need to have a hard conversation with today?