Even if you don’t have children of your own, you’ve heard a preschooler ask the question incessantly.


Why, Mommy? Why do bees sting? Why does the sun go to sleep every night? Why do I have to eat broccoli?”


Though we may tire of answering the question (the average preschooler asks over 300 questions a day!), it’s an essential one. Without it, our children would never learn how to navigate relationships; they would miss the awe of being part of a magnificent creation; and they would disregard the importance of taking care of themselves.


We beg our children to stop asking the question, and somehow, somewhere along the way, we too stop asking it. And instead of being free, we find ourselves within a crippling confinement.

When we stop asking why, we begin focusing on what.


What do I need to accomplish today?


What’s next?


What is expected of me?


Little by little, as I focus on the what of life, I shrivel a little more inside. Because without focusing on the why behind the what, tasks become monotonous, living becomes gray.


I’m making a choice. No longer will I focus on the what! I refuse to be pulled down. Instead I will start asking why again.

Why am I spending my time this way?


Why do I want to continue, or change?


Why am I here?


Suddenly, why is no longer wearying. It’s energizing. It’s exciting!   It reminds me who I am, where I am headed, and my purpose.


Will you start asking why again?


6 thoughts on “Why”

  1. Dave Lewis says:

    Good word, Heather. Some of us are naturally wired to approach everything through this portal. They still need to cultivate this skill. Others may have to work harder to postpone their “what” and “how” questions, but the answers they come up with will be much more effective after starting with “why.”

    1. Heather says:

      Oh – so true – how we are wired affects us in so many ways! Good and bad. 🙂 Grateful that we have the chance to “rewire”.

  2. Christen says:

    Love this Heather! Sometimes I forget to think about the backend, and just go with the day to day tasks. We’ve been given a day full of opportunities, and I want to honor them and use them wisely!

    1. Heather says:

      Christen, you are such a constant source of encouragement and an example of what it looks like to be like Jesus! Praying with you that you’ll see each day as a new opportunity!

  3. Joey says:

    This word has burrowed into my mind this week and filled in some holes on something I’ve been working on and thinking about for a while. Can’t wait to share it with you! Thanks for your faithfulness to your calling.

    1. Heather says:

      Can’t wait to hear about it!!

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